Päntsdrunk may be a refreshing approach to finding joy in solitude, while in the nude.

Created by Katrell Faison and Jaleel & Nicole

It’s no coincidence that Finland is statistically the happiest country in the world for the third consecutive time. But unlike the wellness trends that emerged from its Nordic neighbors — the Danes have hygge and the Swedes have lagom— the Finns have a more simplistic and realistic way to happiness.

Kalsarikännit, which loosely translates to päntsdrunk in English, literally means “drinking at home, alone, in your underwear.”

It’s such a widely celebrated pastime, that Finland’s Ministry of Foreign Affairs launched two emojis of people drinking in their underwear to help explain Finnish culture to foreigners.

In many other countries, this…

And small actionable tips that you can apply today.

5 Quotes by Keanu Reeves That May Help You Live an Authentic and Wholesome Life
5 Quotes by Keanu Reeves That May Help You Live an Authentic and Wholesome Life
Created by Katrell Faison and Jaleel & Nicole

It’s common to seek the wisdom of people who have led remarkable lives. One such man is Keanu Reeves, who’s something of a pop-culture icon, not because of any particular film, but for being Keanu Reeves himself.

Much of what we know about his offscreen persona has been told or reported by others, in part because of his desire for privacy.

Yet perhaps it’s also why we’re so drawn to him. In a time rife with cynicism, hopelessness, and selfishness, he comes across as humble, kind, even almost heroic in every sense of the word.

With that in mind, here…

Building your best life begins in knowing where your journey ends.

The Thought Experiment That Can Reprogram the Way You Think about Your Future
The Thought Experiment That Can Reprogram the Way You Think about Your Future
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To date, humans are the only species on the planet capable of thinking critically about the future. Some animals may often act as though they have the capacity to think about the future — even chimpanzees can pretend — but we’re the only ones with the ability to experience the world as it has never been, but as it might be.

In Stumbling on Happiness, Daniel Gilbert calls this “the greatest achievement of the human brain.” …

The key to finding peace in chaos is water.

How a Faulty Fridge Forced Me to Make Peace with Things I Have No Control Over
How a Faulty Fridge Forced Me to Make Peace with Things I Have No Control Over
Photo by Timothy Dykes on Unsplash (Edited by Jaleel & Nicole)

I don’t consider myself to be a violent person.

My rage, if any, has usually been reserved for fascists leaders, big corporations, and the billionaires that run it. Other than that, I‘m rational about things that many people will normally find inconvenient.

Except for one thing. The relentless beeping of our faulty smart fridge.

It’s been a week, and it has finally sent me and my partner over the edge. Worse, we couldn’t figure out what was wrong with it.

We tried every trick in the book — unplugging and plugging it back in, deep cleaning the interior, manually defrosting…

It’s time you commit to yourself — literally.

Create a Ulysses Pact to Foster Accountability and Crush Your Goals
Create a Ulysses Pact to Foster Accountability and Crush Your Goals
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Fostering accountability is the perfect way to master your goals.

When Oliver Sacks was dissatisfied with his first manuscript and decided to rewrite it entirely, he gave himself an unusual ultimatum.

“If I don’t have the finished manuscript [in 10 days], I shall have to kill myself.”

He said it so convincingly, he actually believed it. In the end, it took him nine days — a day ahead of schedule — to create Migraine, the book that ultimately launched him to success.

Fortunately, you don’t have to go to the same lengths. You just have to secure a way to…

It all comes down to asking for advice.

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Asking for advice is the perfect way to influence others.

For example, my partner wrote a screenplay in college. Concerned that it might be a pile of garbage, he asked his talented writer friend to take a look.

“So what did you think?” he said after. His friend scratched his head and told him it could use more work. Uninspired and defeated, my partner went on his way, and never bothered finishing his screenplay.

He found out later that it was the wrong question to ask.

According to modern science, he shouldn’t have asked for his friend’s opinion. …

Turn strangers into contacts, maybe even friends, according to Harvard.

8 Questions Interesting People Ask to Keep The Ball Rolling
8 Questions Interesting People Ask to Keep The Ball Rolling
Photo by Tamara Bellis on Unsplash

I decided to become an interesting person, and it was the best decision I ever made. I didn’t need to have constant adventures but learned how to move people with my words instead.

Turns out, they opened up to me when I began to be deliberate in how I conduct myself. I was brief and to the point. I actually listened to what they were saying. I tuned in and opened my body language. And I laughed at the right moments and made light of awkward situations.

But the one thing that truly made me interesting came down to asking…

Practice these small and unusual behaviors in your interactions to create a positive and lasting impression.

Six Unusual Techniques to Help You Become More Likable
Six Unusual Techniques to Help You Become More Likable
Photo by Michael Dam on Unsplash (Edited by Jaleel & Nicole)

If you want to be liked, you first have to know how to be likable.

Maybe you have a romantic interest or a new friendship you’re trying to cultivate. Maybe you want to land a particular job, and you need to impress the interviewer. Or perhaps you’re trying to launch a business, and you have to attract potential clients.

Either way, getting someone to like you is an advantage; however, it isn’t always easy. Research shows that our brains take less than one second to decide whether we can trust someone or not.

You read that right — less than…

Words to use and to avoid to control the outcome of your conversations, according to science.

How to Level Up Your Conversations to Get The Most Out of People
How to Level Up Your Conversations to Get The Most Out of People
Photo by Dan on Unsplash (Edited by Jaleel & Nicole)

Imagine the last conversation you had with someone you didn’t know.

Did certain moments feel awkward? Did you find the other person interesting? More importantly, did the other person find you interesting?

Were you happy with how the conversation turned out?

For the most part, talking to someone you don’t know can be difficult to navigate. For every successful interaction, there are thousands more that are badly received.

Compared with talking to your partner or your mom, you don’t know whether they might talk too much or you might talk too much. Perhaps they might shut down. …

Why self-acceptance is vital for creating positive mental shifts.

The Schitt’s Creek Cast (Edited by Katrell Faison and Jaleel & Nicole)

Are you afraid of what others think of you?

I am, and it’s kept me trapped my whole life.

In fact, I would hold myself back from sharing my opinions because I couldn’t stand being ridiculed or rejected. In the rare moments that I did, I would have a difficult time staying present as my mind wandered all over the place.

Do I look okay? Did I say too much? Is there something wrong? Great, now they probably think I’m too intense. They probably know I’m stupid.

Sometimes I couldn’t even walk down the street without assuming that every facial…

Jaleel & Nicole

Writing about life and how to it get better at it. We cover topics like Psychology, Mental Health, and Relationships. Contact@JaleelWallace.com

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