Over the course of decades, Will Smith has built himself an impressive career, massive wealth, and a loving family. While his lengthy accolades are intimidating, the principle behind his success is simple. In an interview with Tavis Smiley many years ago, Will Smith talked about how he believed he can achieve anything he sets his mind to.
Like him, I’ve reaped some success in my life because I’ve applied the same principle. About two years ago, I lived with two roommates, had no travel experience, and worked for a desk job I hated. …
It’s common to seek the wisdom of people who have led remarkable lives. One such man is Keanu Reeves, who’s something of a pop-culture icon, not because of any particular film, but for being Keanu Reeves himself.
Much of what we know about his offscreen persona has been told or reported by others, in part because of his desire for privacy.
Yet perhaps it’s also why we’re so drawn to him. In a time rife with cynicism, hopelessness, and selfishness, he comes across as humble, kind, even almost heroic in every sense of the word.
With that in mind, here…
It’s no coincidence that Finland is statistically the happiest country in the world for the third consecutive time. But unlike the wellness trends that emerged from its Nordic neighbors — the Danes have hygge and the Swedes have lagom— the Finns have a more simplistic and realistic way to happiness.
Kalsarikännit, which loosely translates to päntsdrunk in English, literally means “drinking at home, alone, in your underwear.”
It’s such a widely celebrated pastime, that Finland’s Ministry of Foreign Affairs launched two emojis of people drinking in their underwear to help explain Finnish culture to foreigners.
Most people think they need to avoid conflict in their relationships when they actually need to know how to do it the right way.
My grandparents figured it out. They were happily married for 58 years before my grandfather passed away and my grandmother a year after him. It wasn’t because they never fought, but because they learned how to fight together.
However, in the heat of an argument, most of us rarely know how to do it constructively. Conflict is inevitable and normal for relationships. It’s the way people argue that determines whether the relationship will survive. …
If I were to ask you about the type of love you deserve, what would you say?
In the past, I would’ve said that I only deserved love when someone approved of me. I even convinced myself that I was unlovable beyond my relationships. I was mistaken.
For those of us who are used to unhealthy relationships, it becomes difficult to know anything better. We can teach ourselves to recognize red flags and avoid getting hurt, yet we rarely know what healthy relationships look like or what to do when we find them.
So when I found myself in a…
My earliest memory of my parents was in kindergarten. I had just earned an award for being at the top of my class. I saw it made them happy, and I felt I should keep at it by doing what they wanted.
So I did, for many years. Yet, the more I did what was expected of me, the more unhappy and unfulfilled I was.
That is about until two years ago.
I was 23 — fed up from waking up every day to a hollowed-out version of myself. …
If you want to be with someone emotionally available, you first have to be emotionally available yourself. I learned this the hard way.
After my first big heartbreak, I didn’t want to grieve the loss of my relationship. The pain was just too much to bear. So, I would jump into another relationship as soon as possible.
Yet, the more I lived this way, the more I became emotionally unavailable. No matter how much I claimed to want real intimacy and connection, I actually didn’t know how it looked or felt. …
After working nonstop during the first half of the pandemic, I was beyond exhausted. All of a sudden, I barely had the energy to start even the simplest tasks. By November, the sight of my phone and laptop was enough to trigger my anxiety attacks.
It was difficult to admit it then, but I was finally burnt out.
Between work stress, financial worries, and collective health anxiety, we’re feeling exhausted in a whole new way nowadays. A recent survey conducted by FlexJobs and Mental Health America found that 40% of people experienced burnout during the pandemic.
However, this burnout particularly…
My first volunteer experience happened in the wake of the strongest typhoon that hit Manila, the capital city of the Philippines. Typhoon Ketsana, known by the locals as Typhoon Ondoy, lasted about four days, causing 921 deaths and $1.15 billion in overall damages.
I was 15, then. The devastation, which was mostly sustained in the capital and its neighboring cities, plagued the entire nation. The news cycled between images of a ravaged city and its citizens stranded on rooftops as the streets turned into rivers littered with dead bodies and broken items.
Disappointed by the government’s lackluster response, the country…
For a brief period of my life, I was in a contentious relationship with a controlling, emotionally abusive, and short-tempered man.
Joseph, who towered over me at six foot four, was a professional soccer player. He built himself an impressive career after being scouted by different international leagues at a young age.
Yet this seemingly perfect man, with his muscle fit shirts, good looks, and glowing record, wasn’t always what he seemed to be. Behind closed doors, I bore the brunt of his deeply misogynistic beliefs.
For Joseph, it was only natural. He grew up in a devout Muslim household…